Book Review | All Things Beautiful By Jermaine Reed 

Hello my loves,

I had the great pleasure of reading “All Things Beautiful,” a short story written by Jermaine Reed it’s by far an inspiring piece of literature.
All Things Beautiful is about a young writer named Brian, whose passion for writing is short-lived when his job search is coming up short. Desperate for money, he takes on a job as a home care provider and ends up caring for a paralyzed man named Mr. Kovac.

Three months into the job, Brian stumbles on a manila folder labeled “All Things Beautiful” in the attic of Mr. Kovac’s home while dusting. Curious, Brian opens up the unfinished manuscript and begins to read. Unbeknownst to Brian, an hour passes. Mr. Kovac is not happy about Brian’s unexplained absence.

Two more months go by after Brian gathers up the courage to ask stubborn Mr. Kovac about the unfinished manuscript found in the attic. Angered, Mr. Kovac, is still curious of Brian’s opinion. Brian encourages the old man to finish the beautifully written manuscript. However, Mr. Kovac quickly declines.

The next day Brian brings his laptop and persuades Mr. Kovac to tell the story while Brian types. Mr.Kovac gives in and begins to tell his story, few hours go by and finally finished, Mr. Kovac is pleased with the finished results. Once Brian brings up Mr. Kovac’s potential as a successful writer, Mr. Kovac quickly dismisses the idea.

Over the next four months, Mr.Kovac becomes a mentor to Brian by teaching him with creations of Mr. Kovac’s own.
Unfortunately 5 months later, Mr.Kovac passes away, leaving Brian the finished manuscript of “All Things Beautiful”.

I’m looking forward to knowing what Brian is going to do with the manuscript and his writing career now that he worked under Mr.Kovac expertise.
Look out for the full short story at Third Wednesday Magazine during the 2017 spring edition. You guys don’t want to miss this.

In the meantime, I encourage you to go to Jermaine’s blog here to check out more of his riveting short stories and blogging advice.

Until next time! 

XOXO – Aneesha 

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5 Inspirational Quotes that Motivates You to Take Action!

Hello lovelies,

Lately I have been feeling so inspired, I want it to rub it off on as much people as possible! 

Then the “good idea” alarm was going off in my head.


Each month I’ll be posting an article that features inspirational posts to remind you that you can do it and you can get through whatever obstacles that’s in your way. 

I hope this new series inspire you all to get up, take actions and follow your dreams!

We all go through days where we we’re not in the happiest of moods or feeling like ourselves. Feelings of:

  • Laziness..
  • Feeling cranky/irritable.
  • Want to be alone.
  • Avoid others.

Whatever the reason may be, we all go through random “bad” days with no explanation why. Whenever I wasn’t feeling myself, I use to read inspiration quotes on Pinterest or online that would motivate me to get up, be productive and not waste the day ahead.

“Time is very precious, it’s one thing we don’t get back once it’s gone. Use it to your advantage!”

                               – Aneesha Monae

I came across 5 inspirational quotes on Pinterest (I do not own) that motivated me get through the roughest of days, even when I thought I couldn’t. I hope these quotes help you all like it’s helped me!

1.) The Best Project you’ll ever work on is you! 

This quote is very accurate, when my mom passed away when I was 16 years old. I was positive I was going to go spiraling out of control (The teenage way of venting). However, with the unexpected pregnancy of my daughter in 2012 (Check it out the story here). I was determined to change for the better, for my daughter and for myself. I’m still a work in progress, I’ll never stop growing myself. And you shouldn’t either!

2.) They said “Be the person you needed as a kid.” This honestly changed me into who I am today.

When I was a kid my mom had to work a lot to take care of my siblings and I and with a total of 4 of us, my mom had to work a lot of overtime. Of course I was a kid and never understood why she was away all the time. Yet, my mom sacrificed all her time at work so my siblings and I can have any and everything we ever wanted. And for that I look at her as a superhero. No matter how exhausted,sick or frustrated she was. She got up and did it.

3.) You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.


Before I became a mom I was considered “popular” in high school. After I gave birth to my daughter is another story as to what had happened to the missing 20 friends I had (lol). All the friends I thought would be there during the most memberable but terrifying moment of my life, vanished without a trace just poof. However I had to sit down and think, Did I want that type of environment around my child? The negativity? The selfishness? Absolutely not, It’s their loss. 🙂

4.) It wasn’t a waste of time if you learned something from it.


This quote is my favorite. One of my blog’s goals for 2017 was for me to collaborate with other bloggers and be more social. However, since I’m a small/beginner blogger I need more experience and projects to bring to the table before discussing commission. Even though a reward would be nice, the experience and knowledge I learn along the way with these amazing bloggers and entrepreneurs will always be priceless in my book.

5.) When you feel like quitting think about why you started!


I’m a full time working (phlebotomist) mom but I love to write as a hobby. After a long work day I find it difficult to even write, let alone pick up a pen when I have a screaming 1 year old from teething and a 4 year old diva sneaking into my makeup bag. However, seeing people that are just like me become successful writers and bloggers inspires me that it can indeed happen. Don’t give up, with hardworking and dedication it can happen!

Do you have any quotes that helps you get through a rough day? Comment them below!

Until next time!

XOXO- Aneesha

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How Becoming a Teenage Mom Saved my Life.

Hello my sweets, 

As many of you are aware, I had lost my mother at the age of 16 two days before Christmas in 2011. One little piece of information I have left out was that few months later after my mom’s passing, I was not expecting to receive the news that would change my life forever.

I was in denial that I was 11 days late on my period-I’m never late, 28th day of each month for 5 days! This routine has been apart of my life since I was 12 years old and all of a sudden it wants to do something out of the ordinary and not arrive on time! It was out of ordinary and it definitely made me raise an eyebrow.

The thought of pregnancy was at the very bottom of the list, I was going through a lot during that time frame anything could’ve been the cause of my period being late. 

  • Stress.
  • Medication.
  • Excessive exercise.
  • Illness.

Stress had to be the cause of my late period right? I mean sure my boyfriend and I were “knocking boots” the month prior (Sorry, TMI) and sure I read online that after day 3 of a late period that’s a tell sign you’re pregnant. But you don’t believe everything you read on the internet right? I was a rock stuck in a hard place.

Yet, it made sense why I went with stress as my reason for my late period, I was still grieving my mom’s death. But taking a pregnancy test wouldn’t hurt right? So I thought, I’ll never forget the day I was sitting on the bathroom floor shocked after tearing through 3 boxes of positive pregnancy test of any brand you could think of! I was definitely pregnant and the thought that I couldn’t tell my mom, broke my heart into pieces.

After my mother’s death I was certain I was going to conflict self harm or even worse. I couldn’t face the truth, that the one person I need the most in my life is gone. However, the reality of me becoming a mother hit me hard, once a heartbeat was discovered stronger than ever at my scheduled doctor’s appointment later that week. It’s not about me anymore. Regardless of how I was feeling or thinking, I had a baby that needs their mother just like how I need mine. I refuse to put my child(ren) through the emotions and pain I was experiencing from losing my mom.  I had to get up and learn how to support and be a mother to my own child, and I had no clue where to begin or who to go too. 

I went with my instincts and hoped for the best.

January 6, 2013 at 10:06 pm, I was greeted by a 6 pounds 1 ounce, 19 1/2 inches long baby girl that I named Adrienne. (I got her name from Adrienne Bailon from Cheetah Girls.) 


 It seemed as if Earth stopped spinning, and everything slowed down once our eyes met with one another’s for the very first time. Once they laid her on my chest, first thing I thought was “Your the little ham that refused to move your foot away from my ribs all these months!”. Haha


 It was if all my fears, worries and concerns we’re gone. I fell in love the second I laid my eyes on her coming out the womb.(Yes, I watched through a mirror and it was gross but very beautiful thing to watch.)

Whenever the nurses cleaned her up and family and friends departed after welcoming the newest arrival to the family. I was nervous but ecstatic to have some alone time with my bundle of joy.

We would stare at each other for hours, nothing could break our concentration. Then one day something went off in my head-I played a part in creating this little human, which gave me a superior feeling that I am strong and can do anything as long as I put my mind to it and never give up.

My daughter is now 4 and from that day forward, I thank my daughter for saving my life. The day I discovered I was expecting, was the day Adrienne became top priority in my life, she was my responsibility. I had to protect, love, guide and shelter her, and what better person to take on that huge responsibility than your mom? 

My daughter changed me in so many ways, one day I was knocking on the Grim Reaper’s door begging him to take me away from all my problems. Now the thought of my children and I separate for any reason makes me feel sick to my stomach.

Thank you so much Adrienne and Carter for being the piece that filled the empty space in my heart. Mommy will always love you! 

Until next time!

XOX – Aneesha.

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Self Love: What’s Atelphobia and How to Relieve it? 

Hello my loves! It’s the beginning of the New Year and I’m starting this year with a clean slate. I’m wiping my hands clean of any problems, stress or worries that I had in 2016 that I wasn’t able to resolve. Those problems are where they belong, in the past. I’m making 2017 my mission to grow as a person from inside out and sprout a better version of me.

One problem I always faced while growing up (especially in high school) is fear of not being good enough and of course there’s a word for it –Atelphobia. I was shy and no one wanted to be my friend, My self esteem was ruined before it even started and there’s no worse feeling of being forced to be alone. I was confined to a pen and a piece of paper every lunch period and vent my thoughts and emotions until my hands started to cramp. And ever since then, I haven’t been able to stop. Not everyone has the same passion of writing as me, So how can one relieve the feeling of atelphobia?
How can you get over the feeling of not being good enough? 

Let me be he first to tell you.. You ARE good enough! We’re all human and no one is perfect. Don’t let shame stop you from loving myself. Imperfection is apart of being human.

Over the past 5 years I have practiced meditation, prayers, affirmations and even detox cleansing. I was determined to love myself. However, to love yourself it’s not something you have to go buy at the store or research on the internet. I had made a commitment to follow when I felt unsure about my self that I hope helps someone like it helped me. 

  1. Look in the mirror and tell yourself your beautiful and mean it.
  2. Accept who you are.
  3. Release all feelings of self-hate.
  4. Replace negative words with positive ones.
  5. Be patient with yourself.
  6. Treat yourself with respect.
  7. Love yourself to the best of your ability.
  8. Forgive your mistakes you done in the past.
  9. Be your biggest fan.
  10. Not worry about what others think of you.
  11. Never compare yourself to others.
  12. You’re worthy of great things!
  13. Make yourself a priority.
  14. Write why your happy list, 
  15. Pamper yourself once in awhile.

Practicing self care is always beneficial as well to your mental and physical health and you can find out to improve your self care here!

I also found 5 inspiring quotes that promotes Self Love that helped me when I was feeling ashamed of myself and I want to share them with you too!

(Quotes credited by member of Pinterest)

Mala Collective

BuzzFeed

Spirituality, Intuition & Healing

Albion Fit

Jenn at Affirmation & Calendar 2017

Don’t rely on someone else for happiness Everything you need your courage, love, compassion and everything else is already within you. You owe yourself that love that you give everyone but don’t receive in return. 

Regardless of how anyone feels about you choose to be happy and love yourself each and every day!

XOX,

Aneesha

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Epic Fail: How My Fiancé Ruined A Wedding That We’re Still Planning.

Hello lovelies! Whats suppose to be the happiest day of every woman’s life had turned to be a living nightmare for mine. If you weren’t aware, my now fiancé and father of both my kids had done the number one rule to every relationship that’s a big no-no. He opened the door to  infidelity, he performed adultery! A.K.A he cheated. My high school sweetheart and the man of my dreams had done the unthinkable to me. He betrayed my trust and did the unimaginable, informed me there was a baby on the way and wants to be apart of his/her life. Let’s just say my stomach fell into my ass when I heard that news and almost 3 years later, I still catch myself thinking about what he has done. Something always triggers me to go back to those unhappy days, and I refuse to go back!

Planning a wedding while having these non stop thoughts and misleading views in my head was putting me in a negative space. I didn’t want to be around family, friends and I didn’t want to do the one thing I enjoy doing on my free time, blogging. I had to stop and ask myself.

  1. Is it fair  I’m marrying a man and I haven’t forgave him for his cheating past?
  2. Is it fair to me that I’m allowing myself to distance myself from everything and everyone I love just to “cope” with his unfortunate painful mistake?

We sat down and talked about it and he expressed his sorrows immensely and I threw my show at him – just kidding, in my head I did. And I couldn’t help but to look and see how much he meant it, seeing the sadness in his eyes made me want to forgive him. Yes, I did love him and I still wanted to be with him. But I expressed my disapproval of getting married – so soon. 

He took the news bad, But he said “As long as it’s not a no, he’s happy.” he will always wait for me. My family gave me the side eye when my fiancé and I entered a room and I would hear a few whispers and giggles around our couples friends. But I didn’t care because I was happy and that’s all that mattered. We’re only human, we’re going to make mistakes. As long as the same mistake doesn’t get repeated twice then a happy wife equals a happy life. It’s going to take me awhile to trust my fiancé fully. But each day we’re a step closer.

Until next time!

 Be bold be great be you!

XOX,

Aneesha

If you interested in what steps I took to over come my fiancés infidelity, Check it out here At Never Again Ministries by Shon Hyneman.

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The Art of Letting It Go

There has been time and time again my kindness has been taken advantage of, And I finally got to a point I’m tired of it! I love helping people always has and always will. However, Using me just because you know I’ll say yes is very cruel and spiteful. But it’s okay, I’m sorry your were born with an ugly personality, sorry you have to pick on others to make yourself feel superior and sorry that you just have a cold heart.
I forgive you. No person can change who I am. Yes, I’ll be upset for a few hours but I will get over it, Because that’s who I am as a person and dwelling on the past just isn’t my cup of tea. Forgiving people is apart of life, If you hold a grudge it will eat you up trying to get even with that individual. Let it go, You will feel so much better under the sunshine and rainbows while that person is in the dark clouds and rain. Remember misery loves company, Don’t join them.

XOX,

Aneesha

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What to Do When You’re Just Not Motivated 

Hello lovelies!

 A lot of people ask me to teach them my method on how to stay motivated through stressful situations. Honestly my answer never change, Either you want something badly enough to work hard to get it or You’re okay with it slipping through your fingertips. I can’t tell you what to do to stay motivated, However, you can inspire yourself to want to chase your dreams to want to stay motivated on your own.

The trick to getting inspired is to push your limits and step outside of your comfort zone. Many people aren’t inspired to exceed more in life, because they have grown comfort with their everyday lives they grown accustomed too. To become inspired, Seek new experiences that will open up more opportunities for you to expand and grow. Once you find something that lights the fire to motivates you to keep going, Don’t burn out the fire or allow anyone else to die it out either!

Take control of your actions and responsibilities, you’ll be happy once you start! Remove all distractions, There’s nothing more distracting than having the notifications to your phone going off or people constantly interrupting you.

  •  Shut down all your apps that send notifications to your phone.
  •  Turn off your tv or anything that can cause you to look away from your project.
  • keen your door shut until everything is completed . 

As for the people knocking on your door, Politely ask them to come back in a few hours so you can complete your work, They should have no problem understanding.
Plan, Now that you’ve eliminated your distractions, Your mind should be clear of all stress triggers. Sit down and map out your plan for the nights ahead, to know exactly what needs to be completed and when. Remember to take realistic approaches so you don’t become overwhelmed and not finish at all.

Believe in yourself, Even when you don’t not, your a champion! Remain true to your beliefs and values. You can do it.

This isn’t permanent, Understand that what your going through is common and happens during everyday life (it’s normal). When you’re on the verge of giving up,  Remember you aren’t the only one that wanted to throw in the towel. We’ve all been there and done that but honestly, it probably won’t be our last time feeling this way again. 

Just because we feel down now doesn’t mean we’ll feel down forever. It’s only temporary.

Make positive changes so that it can reflect the change on your attitude to want to do better. If you want to improve your mood and attitude on life, You have to take the appropriate steps to get there. And adjusting a bad attitude is a good start.

Sometimes life deals us things we don’t really want, However looking at things that is worth living and make us smile are most valuable things to remember. Always ask yourself what are you grateful for? And remember it can be much worse.
Until Next time!

XOXO – Aneesha

Strategies to Deal With Toxic People

Hello lovelies! Being around toxic people has a negative impact on us, Especially if it’s a co-worker,family member or spouse. Without these difficult relationships I wouldn’t know the appropriate way to approach them without conflict. But, What defines a toxic person? I actually don’t think the person is toxic but more of their attitude and behavior toward our relationship is toxic. Common behavior includes:

  • Causing drama in their lives or surrounded bystanders.
  • Using others only when it benefits them.
  • Manipulating people.
  • Overly judgemental of people.
  • Belittling everyone.

It’s important to realize that we all play a role in interacting with toxic people, We’ll either diffuse the situation or add more fuel to the fire. You only control you, Trying to change others is near impossible. The only thing we can do is provide support or learn to forgive them for their behavior.

It’s crucial to notice the signs of you being affected by a toxic person, If you can’t define the effect it is having on your mind and body it will be difficult to stop.

Here’s some of the signs if you have a toxic person effecting your life:

  • You feel bad/ashamed.
  • Your more emotional than before.
  • Your Exhausted/Angry easily.
  • You rather be alone than with loved ones.

So what can you do to stop this toxic person? I have to admit it isn’t easy. However, with hardwork and dedication it can be done. Here are some of the strategies I use while dealing with a toxic person.

Don’t Explain Yourself | You don’t need to justify yourself, Saying the word No is a strong response on its own. You don’t need to make excuses or explain yourself to someone whose goal is to misunderstand you. If you simply just can do it, Say no and walk away to avoid confrontation.

Have Control | You don’t have to participate in arguments that you get invited into. Creating conflict is the number one thing a toxic person loves to do, It makes them feel noticed and important, Don’t react to them – it’s called being mature. Learning control saves you energy for something that truly matters.
Practice Sympathy | Being understanding and compassionate of a persons situation helps build the toxic relationship up. We don’t know why this person behaves this way, We can still be respectful without the unnecessary comments. Everyone has something positive about themselves, Find out what their is and see if a positive conversation starts from there.

Honest Chat | Rise above the situation. Try connecting with them in a sensitive way, If you can reach a place where you can pull them to the side and have a chat – then do it. Find something that can have that person talking, And change the subject to something related. If it doesn’t work, Avoid an argument. Remember rise above.

Forgive Them | If you have exhausted all your options to try to help the situation, Wipe your hands of the situation and move on. Forgiveness does not mean you accept their behavior, It simply mean your not going to try to help them change their bad mood. It’s about inner strength. Walking away knowing you tried is all you need. 

Set Boundaries | You weren’t born to please people, And toxic people are twice as hard to please which makes you want to try harder, compromise more and trying harder to keep the peace. No longer tolerate their mess. Trust your judgement even if everyone thinks it’s right or wrong!

You deserve to be around people that makes you happy and feel uplifted, who support and encourage you and directs you towards your goals. Never settle for less than you deserve.

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 Stay True To Yourself 


Losing yourself during a stressful event in your life is one of the easiest things that can happen. One day you could be feeling 100 percent, Then turn around and have a rain cloud hovering over you.

To be true to yourself is to be who you are and do what you believe in around others who agree with you or not. You need to know your values and use them to guide you in the direction your heading – not everyone else. 

As difficult as it may seems, Do not pretend to be something you are not to again acceptance. Have the bravery to accept who you are, And surround yourself with people that encourages you to be You. This trick to overcome this, is to stop caring about what other thinks about you. Have confidence in yourself and don’t be afraid to try new things in fear that others will judge you. Always have faith in yourself and the choices you make. 

Back in Full Effect! 

I’m back! And I missed you guys oh so much. I know, I know I have a lot of explaining to do. However, my time away has done nothing but wonders for me. That time away taught me how to love myself. 
I learned to accept things for what they are, And learn to forgive and forget. Dwelling on the past isn’t healthy, And during that dark time I didn’t want my negative vibes to rub on any of you or anyone around me. I had to separate myself, I had to find my true meaning of happiness and the only thing that popped into my mind – Is my blog.

I promise to never leave! I’m here to stay!

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