Refusing to Move Out at 22?!

 Hello sweeties! 

When I got the call that my family and I was picked out of many other applicants to get the 2 bedroom townhouse perfect for my small family, I was genuinely excited. 

When my fiancé and I actually signed our signature on the contract labeled lease, I began to come hesitant and nervous. I wanted to walk out the office and run back to the one place I truly called home. The place where I can cherish the last of my mother’s memories.

I have to admit being in my early 20s with a small family, I thought 5 years after my mother’s passing, moving out would be a “stroll through the park” mentally – wrong!

 Moving out is a huge step in a person’s life, that’s the huge step into the real world. But actually packing up away the belongings/memories and moving away from the last place I was genuinely happy growing up in. 

However, becoming homesick was the last thing I expected to happen while in the process of moving.

I was excited for the new beginnings to come. I was looking for hours on Pinterest for modern home decor for all the rooms of the townhouse! That you can check out my creative side here

It’s about that time I take that big step into the “real world” with “real world” problems with my little family and begin to create memories of our own, in our own place. And what I mean by “real world” problems is bills,bills and more bills! When your splitting the bills amongst 4 other siblings, I was able to tuck away a good amount for savings. (Cha-Ching!) Now I have to get use to paying more cash than I would like.

It didn’t hit me that I was actually moving until my fiancé asked how many boxes should he purchase for the move and which company for the moving truck.

 

I didn’t want to move anymore, I didn’t want to forget all the memories that was created by my siblings, mom and I. Every room is just how my mom left it after she passed away. 

I still decorate the Christmas tree with the same ornaments she used to decorate the tree with. 

It’s not fair to my family, I can’t be selfish to them by dwelling on something that’s a part of life and nothing  an be done away unfortunately. There’re many ways I can cherish the memories that my siblings, mom and I created while she was still alive:

  • Pictures.
  • Stories.
  • Home made videos.
  • Favorite items. (Music, food, movie etc.)
  • Activities in their honor.

And plenty more.. 

It’s going to be hard to move away from the once place I ever truly called home, but if I’m ever feeling homesick, it’s only a few blocks down the street! So I can always visit. Haha!

Until next time!

XOXO- Aneesha

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How Do You Stay Connected with Your Loved Ones?

Hello sweeties,

Ever since I became a mom, keeping in touch with my family and friends has always been very important, but hard to maintain for me. Being a full time working mom to 2 small children, I become so busy with work and my personal life that one day I realized I haven’t spoked to anyone other than my fiancé and small children for over a week!

You would think with all the updated technology, it would be much easier and smoother to stay in contact with your loved ones, well unfortunately no. Technology is improving rapidly each year and for me personally, it’s making my social life much easy for me to have under control. Some of my favorite electronics I use to stay in touch with my family are:

  • Social media.
  • Video chat.
  • Emails.
  • Text message.
  • Facebook messenger.
  • WhatsApp.
  • Linkedin.

Yet, some people want to keep the technology as simple as possible or may not know how to use it at all. Some of my close family members and friends are getting a little older and technology isn’t really their forte. However in my opinion, nothing beats sitting face to face and catching up with our loved ones with laughs,conversations and just good company. But what about the people that have busy schedules? Working moms (like me) that are too tired to pick up the phone after a long work day? Or what if your or your loved ones moved miles away?

What’s your next options on keeping in touch with your loved ones?
Luckily, I’ve found an amazing product for keeping in touch with older family members,children and family/friends that live far away, all while away from the comfort of home! It’s easy to use and user friendly, it’s the Nucleus Anywhere Intercom.

“Nucleus is a family communication device that connects you with the people you love, whether they’re downstairs or across the country.”
Unfortunately being a full time working mom, I get to miss out on the precious memories of my family and children while away at work. Using Nucleus Intercom, I’m able to teach/improve my older family members technology use, watch my daughter do that cartwheel she’s been dying to show me, watch my son pick his nose when no ones looking (haha!) and notify my fiancé dinner is ready over the intercom while away from my home or in the house as well.

It ensures me that my family is safe at home and I’m able to check in on them throughout the work day with great clarity and sound. My older family members were able to set up the device on their own and use it successfully the same day, even my 4 year old daughter was able to program it to call and hang up with no problem!

There is also a free mobile app called The Nucleus Mobile Companion that will allow you to connect to any Nucleus Intercom and connect with your family while on the go! How amazing is that?


The technology world has made communicating with my family much easier. I was aware my family had to improve on our communication, but geez! I didn’t realize how desperately we need it. And I’m happy that we did!

How do you stay connected with your family members? 

How Becoming a Teenage Mom Saved my Life.

Hello my sweets, 

As many of you are aware, I had lost my mother at the age of 16 two days before Christmas in 2011. One little piece of information I have left out was that few months later after my mom’s passing, I was not expecting to receive the news that would change my life forever.

I was in denial that I was 11 days late on my period-I’m never late, 28th day of each month for 5 days! This routine has been apart of my life since I was 12 years old and all of a sudden it wants to do something out of the ordinary and not arrive on time! It was out of ordinary and it definitely made me raise an eyebrow.

The thought of pregnancy was at the very bottom of the list, I was going through a lot during that time frame anything could’ve been the cause of my period being late. 

  • Stress.
  • Medication.
  • Excessive exercise.
  • Illness.

Stress had to be the cause of my late period right? I mean sure my boyfriend and I were “knocking boots” the month prior (Sorry, TMI) and sure I read online that after day 3 of a late period that’s a tell sign you’re pregnant. But you don’t believe everything you read on the internet right? I was a rock stuck in a hard place.

Yet, it made sense why I went with stress as my reason for my late period, I was still grieving my mom’s death. But taking a pregnancy test wouldn’t hurt right? So I thought, I’ll never forget the day I was sitting on the bathroom floor shocked after tearing through 3 boxes of positive pregnancy test of any brand you could think of! I was definitely pregnant and the thought that I couldn’t tell my mom, broke my heart into pieces.

After my mother’s death I was certain I was going to conflict self harm or even worse. I couldn’t face the truth, that the one person I need the most in my life is gone. However, the reality of me becoming a mother hit me hard, once a heartbeat was discovered stronger than ever at my scheduled doctor’s appointment later that week. It’s not about me anymore. Regardless of how I was feeling or thinking, I had a baby that needs their mother just like how I need mine. I refuse to put my child(ren) through the emotions and pain I was experiencing from losing my mom.  I had to get up and learn how to support and be a mother to my own child, and I had no clue where to begin or who to go too. 

I went with my instincts and hoped for the best.

January 6, 2013 at 10:06 pm, I was greeted by a 6 pounds 1 ounce, 19 1/2 inches long baby girl that I named Adrienne. (I got her name from Adrienne Bailon from Cheetah Girls.) 


 It seemed as if Earth stopped spinning, and everything slowed down once our eyes met with one another’s for the very first time. Once they laid her on my chest, first thing I thought was “Your the little ham that refused to move your foot away from my ribs all these months!”. Haha


 It was if all my fears, worries and concerns we’re gone. I fell in love the second I laid my eyes on her coming out the womb.(Yes, I watched through a mirror and it was gross but very beautiful thing to watch.)

Whenever the nurses cleaned her up and family and friends departed after welcoming the newest arrival to the family. I was nervous but ecstatic to have some alone time with my bundle of joy.

We would stare at each other for hours, nothing could break our concentration. Then one day something went off in my head-I played a part in creating this little human, which gave me a superior feeling that I am strong and can do anything as long as I put my mind to it and never give up.

My daughter is now 4 and from that day forward, I thank my daughter for saving my life. The day I discovered I was expecting, was the day Adrienne became top priority in my life, she was my responsibility. I had to protect, love, guide and shelter her, and what better person to take on that huge responsibility than your mom? 

My daughter changed me in so many ways, one day I was knocking on the Grim Reaper’s door begging him to take me away from all my problems. Now the thought of my children and I separate for any reason makes me feel sick to my stomach.

Thank you so much Adrienne and Carter for being the piece that filled the empty space in my heart. Mommy will always love you! 

Until next time!

XOX – Aneesha.

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Merry Christmas with a pinch of Appreciation

Hello lovelies and Merry Christmas! This is the time of year where you show others appreciation and Christmas is the holiday for giving than receiving. I wouldn’t have got this far with my blog if it wasn’t for you guys! I’m truly without a doubt grateful for all my readers, friends and family that continued to show me their support through this journey to “find” myself. Honestly, I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for you guys. Seriously lol.

I have ALOT planned for the year 2017, And I know you guys will love it. Your feedback and insight mean so much to me. The advice and tips I receive from everyone out there makes me a stronger and confident writer. And for that, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Years! I hope this holiday brings everyone love and happiness, As you all done for me when I first started blogging.

XOX,

Aneesha❤

My Ideas of a Perfect Sunday.

Hello my lovelies,

Every time the weekend arrives, I get so excited my goofy side starts to come out and I can’t help myself.
What is there not to love about the weekend right?

  • Catching up on some sleep.
  • Cleaning.
  • Fun with family/friends.
  • Catch up on that tv show that you missed half the episodes.

And much more!

Yet, my favorite day of the weekend is Sunday, I like to call it my Lazy Day – I think everyone calls it that honestly …or Relax day.. But Nonetheless, I go into straight lazy-ass mode. And what I mean by that is wearing my fiancé large T-Shirts, Sweatpants or hubby’s boxer/briefs that I sneak without him looking (Eventually, I get caught like 2 minutes later lol) and wearing my hair all crazy.

Even though I would prefer to stay in my bed and binge watch American Horror Story and stuff my face with pizza rolls. Being a mom to a 4 year old diva daughter and one year old a energetic boy. I only get those perks during their nap time, and even then I’m in the fridge stuffing my face with some junk food I shouldn’t be eating. But Hey! I’m only human.

When I do have those lovely 60 or more minutes to myself there are a few things I enjoy doing in my alone time or spending them with my family. 


5.) Going To The Park– There’s nothing better than going to the park on a hot Sunday afternoon and letting the kids go for it! Watching the kids running around, jumping, skipping, even falling and tiring themselves out without me having to do anything but chase them for a little while, Yell Boo! to scare them, Rolling down the Hill and much more. I mean sure I leave with cuts and bruises that would make someone believe I got into a fist fight with a rose bush and lost. But as long as the kids have fun, that’s all that matters.


4.) AMERICAN HORROR STORY!– This show is one of my top shows I like to watch including The Leftovers and Orange is the New Black. Nothing better than watching your favorite shows, Eating your own snacks without having to share with your kids WHILE they’re taking a nap which mean NO INTERRUPTIONS – Vacation for a hour, Just until the kids wake up.


3.) Cuddle Time– I love when both my kids climb up to me and lay on my chest until they fall asleep. I always try to enjoy these moments while I can before they want me to stop altogether. Then I’m going to cry in the corner asking why my children stopped loving me haha!


2.) Video Games with Hubby– I must admit I wasn’t a video games type of girlfriend. I mean I enjoyed playing The Sims and Harvest Moon I normally watched hubby play his games until I grew bored and asked could I join in his tensed gameplay of Call of Duty, which I now enjoy playing together the most with my fiancé. But even if we’re playing against or with each other (I always kick his butt, But he’s in denial lol). We always have a blast. 


1.) Going Out to Eat with Family– One of my favorite things I love to do during the weekend is going to a nice testy and grab breakfast with my family. Our #1 choice is Dennys. They have the best bacon and toast I’ve ever had the pleasure of eating then digesting then.., you know the rest! lol 

These are just a few of the hobbies my family and myself do with one another or during our alone time.

What do you to do during the weekends?

Until next time!

XOXO – Aneesha

My … Inspiration

“Children are GREAT imitators, So as parents let’s give them something great to imitate!”

I love reading you guys emails! I love helping people the best to my ability. If it’s just talking,listening or just showing how I care.

Some emails have me smile,laugh and sometimes cry… You never know when someone is at their breaking point and needs one person… Just one, even if it’s a stranger to remind them that they matter!

And you do matter!

I had one email the other day and this young fellow that follows me on Twitter asked me where do I get my inspiration from.. And you know I didn’t have an answer at first. I sat up and thought “Where do I get my inspiration from? My drive to never give up?” And then I hear little feet steps running up to me “mommy mommy mommy! I found Gary!”. It was a nasty ass green slug, and she was referring to Gary from the Animated Television show Spongebob SquarePants on Nickelodeon.
  
I immediately screamed! (I hate bugs! Let alone a green slimey slug!) I quickly grabbed a paper towel and let the little guy free. Nice comparison Adrienne I said lol and she giggled and ran back outside to more than likely look for “Gary” lol. When I got back to my laptop and looked at the blank email and smiled, I typed back “My kids inspire me.”

When I lost my mother at the age 16 I was a lost soul, I had no guidance and honestly… no one that cared enough to show me, My mother was my everything and God needed her more in heaven. When I got pregnant with my oldest daughter Adrienne.. I was thinking “She needs me, she’s my responsibility, I have to protect her!” My children inspires me to wake up everyday and go to work so they can have a life I had when growing up, if not better! They inspire me to never give up even though it’s the easiest thing to do, they inspire me to fight through all obstacles to get to that finish line. 

If you have children or about to become a parent yourself or even have a little one to look after! They are VERY observant, what you do they will imitate down to the TEE! You don’t have to have children to be labeled as a parent. The love and affection you give a child is priceless!

That’s what inspires me to keep on fighting! My kids .. Adrienne and Carter.

 

If you guys would like to email me it can be abut ANYTHING I don’t care! I love talking to you guys 🙂 email me at livelifeunapologetic@outlook.com 🙂   

Wonderful News I Want to Share!

Everyone of the blogosphere! I have exciting news!!!!!

IM ENGAGED!!!

 

 It was so romantic and random lol but those are just few of the the reasons why I fell for my best friend.

I was in the middle of doing my daughter’s hair in my living room until my boyfriend enters the room and hands me a teddy bear, and said the bear was holding something. I looked back in the bag and on the floor thinking the mystery item has fallen out of its compartment. Out of the corner of my eye, I see my boyfriend kneel down on one knee and hold a tiny box with a tiny red bow on top, I immediately burst into tears. 

Is this really happening? Someone wants to spend the rest of eternity with me?!

I could tell he was nervous (Which made him 10x cuter!) my sister and grandmother was present and he was stuttering a little with his words, but I thought it was the sweetest words ever spoken.

And I said yes!

2016 IS STARTING OFF GREAT!!!